I hear many of my single clients discuss how challenging it is to make authentic connections. This is why I spend so much emphasis on coaching singles to be brave enough to step into their authentic, real selves.
As daunting as this sounds, this is the only real way to make authentic connections. It begins with you being authentically yourself which will encourage others to do the same.
Start with Self Awareness
-How do you feel when you are with others?
-Do you feel like you put on act to please people or get others to like you?
-Do you feel that if you are yourself, others will not like you?
-Do you feel the need to compare or compete with others?
Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable
Being vulnerable can be so challenging. Brené Brown, the expert on shame and vulnerability describes vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. It’s that unstable feeling we get when we step out of our comfort zone or do something that forces us to loosen control.”
As difficult as it is to be vulnerable, it is the only way forward to make lasting, healthy relationships.
So, I encourage you next time you are in a social gathering, just take one step towards vulnerability. That could mean standing in your own skin more confidently or refraining from making comments that focus on people-pleasing.
That also means taking the judgment off yourself. Try to stop thinking so much and try to live in the moment. I am sure as you become more vulnerable, people will notice it and want to be with you even more!
Embrace who God created you to be. Because that is where true freedom lies.
If you want to intentionally begin practicing vulnerability and making authentic connections- register for The Virtual Happy Hour I will be hosting on November 28.
Hope to see you there!